Sue Seel, M.S. Certified Coach
Stress can be positive if it helps to motivate us to achieve our goals and purpose. It becomes negative when we are drained and lose focus.
1. SELF – AWARENESS – Our personalities, needs, values, beliefs determine whether we react to an event with elevated stress or a mere shrug of the shoulders…
How much sleep do you need to function productively?
Do you listen to your body’s messages when you are ill? Headaches? Insomnia?
Does socializing energize you or do you need more solitude?
What are the factors which cause you to be the most overwhelmed?
Disorganization in your environment?
Chaos, conflict or confusion in relationships?
What do you believe about the necessity for a balanced life?
2. ARE YOU RESTED? – If you are not getting the rest you need to function well, ask why and proceed with overcoming the obstacles. Disorganized? Poor time management? Need to set a boundary? (Ex: A boundary is like a safety net – it is setting a limit around those things that prevent you from carrying out your goals and purpose). Self-deprivation can sabotage health and balance.
3. YOUR FOOD IS YOUR FUEL – Probably the two biggest dietary choices which prevent healthy fueling when under stress are excess caffeine and refined carbohydrates. But since we already know that, what are we doing about it??
GO DEEPER - Your eating habits could be the basis for low energy, irritability, illness. Make a change, now.
4. ARE YOU MOVING FOR HEART AND HEALTH? – We are inundated with books, classes, tapes on exercise. Probably because we need it more than ever before. AGAIN, figure out what you need, get a partner, make a commitment to fitness and balance.
5. ACCOUNTABILITY/PARTNERSHIP – Ask a trusted friend or spouse, family member or coach to come alongside in encouraging you to make changes in your life that are MORE in alignment with your LIFE PURPOSE. Making changes necessitates KNOWING or DETERMINING your direction, plan, priorities based on your personality, needs, values, beliefs, talents, skills.
6. SOLITUDE – Even if you are an extrovert and receive energy from being with people, we all need time alone – for refreshment, reflection, relaxation. What activities re-build you physically, mentally, spiritually?
7. TIME MANAGEMENT – The way we manage our time reflects our goals, priorities, and personalities. If this is your area of stress > KNOW YOUR VALUES, use a planner, use waiting time, manage procrastination, set better boundaries…
8. TRUST –In conjunction with examining all aspects of your life, lifestyle and life choices, simply releasing a stressful situation and trusting in the highest good for all can be the most freeing of all stress management strategies. It is often the most challenging. To trust does not mean to relinquish responsibility, honesty, courage or wisdom in the context of a stressful situation. Rather, it can be empowering and energizing, and stabilizing.
9. SIMPLIFY – Simplifying your life is a FANTASTIC STRESS BUSTER! –
Eliminate 10 things that you are tolerating and which are draining your energy. This could range from cleaning the garage, finishing the years of picture albums, cleaning out your closets. Remove any obstacles that are keeping you from moving forward.
10. SET LIMITS - As we pour ourselves out, so must we be filled. Often this necessitates establishing imaginary lines around us to help protect and nourish our hearts, souls, minds, and bodies. Being able to say ”no” creates space and energy. Limits are not walls or weapons. They can actually be PROACTIVE. Is limit setting difficult for you? Is this causing unnecessary stress in relationships? In the workplace?
Commitment: Write down 5 problems you have right now – See if you can solve them in 30 days, simply by setting better limits on what you can handle.
Sue Seel, M.S. Certified Coach
Personal and Professional Potential
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